“BEING your true self begins when your inner attitude matches your outward actions “-Nina Obier
There are several definitions of confidence. One that I would like to refer to is “a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers.”
Confidence is believing in yourself. YOU are your biggest fan. Think about it, who are you with 24/7? YOURSELF. You can’t get away from yourself, even though some days you may want to.
That’s why you need to have believe in yourself. You are your greatest resource. You can speak to yourself as your very best friend. But do you?
Believing means you know, unconditionally, that you are capable, worthy, and good enough.
Having this knowledge is one step. Putting it into daily practice is another.
Here is a three-step belief process that you can use to build your confidence. I call it the TSA method:
T – Think about the situation (on paper) Get it out of your head. You can write it out as is, or you can write it out as you want it to be.
S – Share your thoughts and ideas, with the right people. That is key, not everyone is your biggest fan. Be selective. For the record I start with God, then go from there. When we share, with the right people, and are open to the theory “two heads are better than one” or “feedback is golden” We elevate our belief and that in turn fosters more confidence.
A – Act upon your good thoughts that you wrote down and shared. Belief and confidence come with action. The belief process is not complete unless you act. Act from a place of knowing that it’s all good.
The TSA cycle repeats after you act, you will think about it (reflect) share it (with the right people, being open to expanding upon the idea). Act upon it with confidence.
The secret ingredient within the TSA method is YOU. You BEING your own best friend. You “speaking” to yourself as the most capable and worthy. One way of ensuring that you are doing this it to literally say or write down an affirmation or as Dana Wilde likes to call them mantras. Short, simple phrases that tell your brain you’re fabulous. That you got this. That you can do it. Then plaster them all over the house. Set them as reminders on your phone. Repeat them in the shower, car or continuously throughout the day.
Here is what I know to be true, God wants us to live out our purpose, he wants us to succeed in being the best version of ourselves.
“When you step into your brilliance you spark others to step out in theirs.” Nina Obier