“Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. It empties today of its strength.” -Mary Engelbreit
Worry less, smile more. That is this week’s message. I bring it to you as I look back on this past week. I finished Matthew Kelly’s book, Perfectly Yourself.
The final lesson was about worry. Why do we worry? We worry because we have this notion that we have control over situations. 9 times out of 10 we don’t.
One of the ways we worry is by creting scenarios and stories in our head. Have you ever looked back when you do that only to realize it usually doesn’t work out the way we worried about it?
“Worry less. Smile More. Don’t regret. Just learn and grow.”
Here are the steps I try to take:
Stay present– “Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” Leo Buscaglia. The only moment we have is the present moment, the past is gone, the future has yet to arrive. The best gift you can give yourself and others is to be present.
Mindful– Acknowledge the worry and put it in it’s place by asking is there anything I can do? Is there a lesson to learn? If I can take a positive action I will do it. If it is out of my control I will surrender.
Imagine the Best in Every Person and Situation– What’s going right? I get to thank Dana Wilde for introducing me to this simple yet very powerful question. By focusing on the good there is less room for worry.
Let it Flow, on Paper– There is power in putting pen to paper. Clearing our minds of clutter. By putting it down we are effectively parking it out of our brain. Getting your emotions down on paper sounds like it could fuel anxieties, but according to a University of Chicago study published in the journal Science, the activity has the opposite effect. “It might be counterintuitive, but it’s almost as if you empty the fears out of your mind,” Sian Beilock “You reassess that situation so that you’re not as likely to worry about those situations because you’ve slain that beast.”
Exercise– Yes, physical exercise is a wonderful way to remove worry from your thoughts. “Few things work so well and consistently as working out to release inner tensions and to move out of a headspace that is extra vulnerable to worries.” Henrik Edberg
Here is some incredible insight from a couple of the powerful women in our Leading A Life of Harmony community.
Carolina Loeffen There is no room for worry in my head. Not because I have all my sheep on dry land as a dutch saying goes. But because I believe that life is going to happen. Some days are “luckier” than others but it all works out in the end. So I am happy to be my irresponsible head in the clouds self.
Susan Recarey Don’t worry be happy a great mantra for all.
Tricia Lesak McFarland I do worry when it comes to others. But for myself, it’s easier not to worry because I put my faith in God. He has a plan and, if something unfortunate happens, it was meant to be.
Debbie Bellon Love your message! My mom was an incredible worrier and I learned from her that it’s so detrimental to your mind and health. I have worked hard to not be a worrier.
I would love to know your thoughts about worry? How much rent does it pay in your brain?
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